6 Things I Stopped Giving A Fu*k About in my 40s.

Today I turn 46!

And I don't know when but I feel like one day I woke up and said... F this sh*t! I know it didn't happen overnight but it definitely seems like it did.

Over the years I've learned to block negative energy like Wonder Woman, drink more water and mind my business..... and I have great hair and skin to prove it!

But, according to my giveafuckometer I'm all out of f*cks to give about some things... here are 6 of them.

1. People's Opinion Of Me

I used to care what people thought, a lot.... about my hair, clothes, job, life. Now, I truly don't give a fu*k. If I like it I will wear it, eat it, do it, live it. If I wanna eat bacon then dammit I'm gonna eat bacon and none of you Veganites are going to make me feel badly about it!

We often get caught up in what other people think because they appear to be cooler or they seem to know better. But, they haven't lived our lives so their opinions come from their own experiences... for them to handle.

2. Fakers

Relationships.... some are meant to last, some are not. It's OK to outgrow people. Especially people who are not genuine. I don't have the patience for anyone who blows smoke up my ass, just because. Fake people have an image to uphold and real people don't give a sh*t.

3. Arguing

That feeling I get inside when I'm arguing literally makes me sick to my stomach. I will not agree with everyone and everything.... everyone will not agree with me! That is life. In my experience, nothing good has come from an argument. We can discuss the issue when tensions die down, if we care to. And, we can agree to disagree. But, I don't see arguments in my future any longer.

4. Crying

I've always been a crybaby but I used to hide it. I thought crying was for the weak. Well that ship has sailed far away.... Seeing a crowd of White people chanting "Black Lives They Matter Here" will do it every time and so will almost any heartstring tugging situation. And I don't care who sees me... as long as I'm not wearing mascara.

5. Drama

Some people live for it.... juicy, miserable, messes. I'm not one of them. Never have been. I used to act like I cared because that's what we are supposed to do, right? We are supposed to give a shit about other people's misery and judge.... Entanglements and mental breakdowns of the rich and famous.... Nah, I’m good. I’d rather talk about Breonna Taylor’s killers!

6. Feeling Obligated

This one is so freeing! I'm not doing anything I don't feel comfortable doing. Period!

That pressure I feel when I do something I really don't want to do makes me extremely uncomfortable. Most of the time that feeling was a warning for me. If I didn't listen, then most likely I was disappointed.