I knew a woman who used to complain about her daughter's menstrual cycle. She said her daughter wasn't being responsible and didn't clean up after herself....
This woman also said she didn't really talk with her daughter about her cycle.
How The F*ck is she supposed to know??? I remember thinking that was so unfair of her. I judged. I don't like to judge but moms are supposed to teach these things, aren't they?
I remember how my mother discussed The Period talk with me. She bought be a book called "PERIOD". It had a bid red dot on the front cover with a stick figure girl hiding behind it.... Nope, not reading that weirdo book... is what I thought. I may have even trashed it without her knowing.
At the time I felt like she could've got me a regular looking book. This one was embarrassing!
When it was my turn to have this conversation with my daughter I was mentally prepared. But, before the conversation I did something else.... When she was 12 years old, I printed out photos of what sexual diseases look like on female genitalia. Yup... photos of gross and bumpy vaginas.
I didn't know what else to do to deter her from being sexually active. I remembered how grossed out I was when I saw these photos. They were really horrible, but they worked!
So whatever I needed to do, I did... and the photos were it.
"This is what happens when you have unprotected sex." I will never forget the tears that streamed down her face when she saw the photos. As I'm reflecting I don't know if that was the right way to handle this lesson but at the time I did what I felt I needed to do. Lesson done... for now.
The real talk happened a few years later. I just needed to buy some time.
Next up, The Period talk.
I didn't want my daughter to be ashamed or surprised. The shower scene from the original Carrie movie was not the experience I wanted for her.
Instead, she would be well prepared for that day....
- Small cute bag to keep in knapsack
- Variety of sanitary napkins and liners
- Sanitary wipe
She had all of the tools she needed.
With all of that info and talking I was so so so disappointed the day it finally came. SHE DIDN'T TELL ME! I wanted to take her for ice-cream like they do in the movies... ok, maybe not ice-cream but I wanted to do something special.
I didn't get the opportunity. But, it wasn't about me! It was about her being prepared and knowledgeable.... which she was. She was happy about that. So my job was done!
At some point I showed her where my supply was located and I let her know it would always be replenished. She was allowed to take whatever was needed and didn't have to talk to me about it unless she wanted to. Of course she didn't... and I was OK with that. Because, she was OK with that!
How did you handle The Period talk and at what age?
- Adila F.Q.